GIVE THEM YOUR SUPPORT
Why spend your life neglecting their values, not paying attention just because they grew up and you think that they no longer need your help? They may have grown up, but they will always need your support and dedication. They need someone that follows and shakes their hand. Otherwise, they will indeed grow, but what will they inherit from you when they have shaken someone else’s hand. Do not waste any more time, give them your support!
Illustration: Argjira Kukaj
Good words, the right moment hugs, handshakes, being there for them, the time you spend with them, are all they need so that in the end after being crowned with success, they crown you as kings, as their superheroes. Although without supernatural powers, the care you have started since their birth is enough.
“Everything” does not mean everything, so you see that there are some things that are considered so important that when you are asked to complete them you are able to do them, will and desire is enough for their happiness, just as when they are overwhelmed by the positive emotions you address.
Undoubtedly life brings them challenges one after the other, but with you they know how to overcome them, they know how to respond. So even when they are happy, even when they are upset, they have someone to call, someone to talk to.
The love you have given has made them so brave that they can express themselves to you, and not stay closed within themselves. This is your biggest success, unpaid and irreplaceable. Everything you have said and done is ingrained in their minds, and they will remember it vividly as they begin to count the days remaining on earth. You will often hear them in the middle of gatherings, when they share advices and guidances for their friends. You have arranged their lives, now they arrange the lives of others. You learned what they needed most and filled in their gaps, now they fill in the gaps for others.
The relationship you have created has become the greatest asset they can possess and compare it to nothing else. After a while they will do their best to inherit it, because it hurts to keep it temporary. And when you give them one last greeting, they will surely be very upset, but after a while they will recover, for the mission you have begun with them, they will complete and convey for the sake of the miracle that has been forgiven to you by your presence.
Every sunrise and sunset found you united. Every rainy day has found you remembering the events of the past. You have been waiting for spring in the garden you built. Every summer vacation whether far or near, somehow has united you. You celebrated every birthday. Every autumn you have lived, you have cleaned the leaves of the yard. And every winter you faced the cold together. Summer waves, spring rains, autumn lightning and winter frosts, were lessons for them. Now they are going through all this with their children.
Whether he or she is, the most beautiful part that has happened to you, and that you cherished the most. So express your love to them in your own way, but do not let them lack your love!
Your lack of love is not just an ordinary lack. If this lack was met by you they would not feel insecure about who they are and what they are not able to do, even though they have already grown up and somehow meet their needs. They will know how to meet the needs of others when they see your commitment to the life they are building, which I do not think has a better architect and guide than you.
Why spend your life neglecting their values, not paying attention just because they grew up and you think that they no longer need your help? They may have grown up, but they will always need your support and dedication. They need the hand that follows and shakes their hand. Otherwise, they will indeed grow, but what will they inherit from you when they have shaken someone else’s hand. Do not waste any more time, give them your support!
About the author: Arbrita Uka, 19 years old, from Lipjan, student in the Physics Department at Faculty of Mathematical Natural Sciences, she’s a volunteer; likes science, in particular astro-physics.
This grant is supported by the ‘Civil Society programme for Albania and Kosovo’, financed by the Norwegian Ministry of Foreign Affairs and managed by Kosovar Civil Society Foundation (KCSF) in partnership with Partners Albania for Change and Development (PA). The content and recommendations do not represent the official position of the Norwegian Ministry of Foreign Affairs and Kosovar Civil Society Foundation (KCSF).
